’25 resolutions

These are not very SMART goals but I downloaded a habit tracker on Notion so I think it will be OK

Body gonna body babyyyy

  • Finish 47 pilates classes (very specific)
  • Bulk and cut (4 and 4 weeks?)
    • Get to BFT 2x a week
  • New piercing? Huhu… where indeed…
  • More hee hee ha ha tattoos that I should really plan ahead for
    • the struggle
    • luigi (cf above: the duality of woman)

Alternatives to being a kept woman

  • Secure employment
    • Apply for 50 (FIFTY) jobs
  • Long-term planning for finances (expenditure, investment %s…)

Love & Belongingness is a stage in the Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

  • Graduation + family photoshoot
  • Masquerade as prey
  • Attend 10 random social gatherings

Hobbies to convince others I have a personality

  • Complete a basic structured dance class
    • … And then some
  • Relearn swimming for diving
  • Get noob diving cert
  • 200k on blog!!!!!!!!
    • Reflections on grad school??????
    • Analyses on my ultimate life tracker??????
    • Purge blog, retag all posts, standardise categories/tags
  • Streaming
    • I want to play Lethal Company but everyone around me is a coward
  • Hit balls

Maximising neuroplasticity

  • Crash course in stock market
  • Pass JLPT N4
    • Duolingo 800 days
  • Read 15 books
  • Take a writing class!!!
  • Learn to braid hair, one, then two

Contribute to society

  • Volunteer >25x this year
  • Monumental

Why do I always need to clean my room

  • Overhaul wardrobe
  • Clean out room
    • Clean chair or new chair
  • Clean up electronic devices and files
    • Phone
    • Computer

Eat pray love and miscellany

  • Travel
    • Bali degeneracy II
    • Korea, Seoul/Busan
    • China, Fuzhou
    • Krabi
    • I want to ski in Hokkaido
  • Random
    • Get a tarot card reading
  • Engagement with fine arts
    • 李圣杰《痴心绝对》世界巡回演唱会 (3☆)
    • Animal Farm (3.5☆)
    • Jazz show @ Hotel Intercontinental (4☆)

’24 resolutions

2024 is over (I mourn the unhinged girl I left behind)… so it is time for an accountability report.

I’m embarrassed that the “incompletes” list is longer than the “completed” one, but maybe life is supposed to be like that — one’s gotta want more to do more. Besides, I completed the most important thing I set out to do: my thesis. (Were you expecting “finding a man”, huh??? Were you???)

Learning point: many of the incompletes are moving targets that cannot be satisfactorily completed once and for all (e.g. cleaning my room, which I DID, okay) — subsequent iterations should be worded with more concrete outcomes. I have no excuses for the concrete ones I didn’t do, though.

So… I’m leaving the incompletes up in hopes of embarrassing myself so much that I’ll do them in 2025. Though not everything, I’ll carry some over to my 2025 resolutions list. The new year’s always a good time to rethink our priorities regarding the kind of lives we want to live. I can be sure that my true self is reflected in the things I did, but not necessarily in the things I didn’t.

2024 was awesome, especially in the middle. It was exhilarating to just exist. I’ll miss those days.

I hope 2025 will be just as magical.


Originally published 24/2/24

COMPLETED
*bolded: stuff i really enjoyed

Struck out = done [completed date, comment]

Setting myself up for Success

  • Finish and submit thesis
  • Financial reconsolidation [Nov]
    • Clear debts
    • Emergency fund
    • Try side hustles: tutoring
  • Duolingo [streak: 468/500 goal, I accept my persistence]

“Hobbies”

  • 100k on blog [Jun] | 120k on blog [Nov]
  • Finish 12 books [my read of the year is Antifragile]
  • Commit to pilates [53 classes in 2024 – not bad if I say so myself!]
  • Post 12 iconic reels (once a month) [exceeded and wiped, except for crowning glory]
    • Purge social media pages following (what you follow shapes what you are)
  • Hyperoptimised partner-search project on dating apps [Jul: bonus comment — in time, you only remember the good ones]

Unhinged, Silly things

  • Tongue piercing [Feb: I love the way it hurts a little]
  • MORE tattoos [self-expression is an expensive hobby]
    • Devils dancing [May]
    • Gladiator gal [Jun]
  • Engage with the woo-woo by visiting a numerologist [he said I wouldn’t find someone this year, but then again I’ve never listened to a man]
  • Attend 5 concerts/musicals [total: 8]
    • Li Ronghao’s Free Soul (rating: 5/5☆)
    • Lin-Manuel Miranda’s Hamilton (4☆)
    • Hacken Lee’s 《弦续李克勤》 (5☆)
    • Dua Lipa’s Radical Optimism (4☆)
    • Jazz
      • Alina Ramirez Trio (3.5☆)
      • MAD LABS 3.0 (3.5☆)
      • Jazz @ The InterContinental (4☆)
      • Seeds and Flowers (3☆)
  • Travel [total: 6]
    • Bali
    • Batam
    • JB
    • Genting
    • Tasmania
    • New Zealand [SKYDIVED!!!]

Cleansing and organising

  • Purge problematic men [Jun: so true babe]
  • Elimination load exercise [Dec]
    • Eliminate non-value adding activities
    • Consolidate all ongoing commitments
  • Deactivate Motion and transfer data to Notion

INCOMPLETES

Cleaning and organising, but the boring kind

  • Spring cleaning
    • Work area [?]
    • Bookshelf and misc items area
    • Purge wardrobe and replace with babygirl vibes
      • Wear every single piece of clothing I own (shirt, shorts, socks, sleepwear)
      • Compile clothes and donate
  • Get chair professionally cleaned
  • Clean mahjong tiles + buy new excellent quality playing cards for good shuffle
  • Clean up electronic devices/files
    • Clean up phone
      • Apps
      • Chats
    • MacBook and Google Drive files
      • Clean up photos
      • Organise Notion completely
        • Transfer all notes from phone to Notion
  • Clear candy
  • Purge blog, retag all posts, standardise categories/tags

Projects

  • Sleep by 4am every night, wake up by 11am every morning (+/-1h) – 80% of the year [I don’t have to crunch any numbers to know that 80% definitely was not attained]
  • Make Monumental happen (by Dec 2024) [70%]
    • Data transcription
    • Data analysis
    • Build programme
    • Run programme
    • Execute events
  • Write blog posts [oof… what happened to My Passion…]
    • Reflections on grad school
    • Tips from a TA
    • Analyses on my Ultimate Life Tracker
  • Volunteer weekly [8 sessions total… shame]
  • Balance bonds and stocks portfolio
  • Apply for 50 overseas jobs/education
  • Side hustles
    • Write for an online platform?
  • Learn R coding / other data presentation software

Hobbies

  • Dance classes [I went for 1 class, at least – we’ll get there]
  • Improve Japanese to N3 level
    • Register for intensive group classes after graduation
  • Get better at pool [# practice sessions logged: 5?]
    • Master cuing action (hit balls accurately top, middle, bottom)
    • Pot balls faster and more accurately
  • Piercings cont
    • Navel piercing?
    • Industrial piercing??
  • Tattoos cont
    • One to commemorate thesis/graduation (“the struggle”, feminised)
    • Dopamine/serotonin pair
  • Stream on Twitch 4 fun
    • Yakuza 0
    • JSRF, 100% (xemu)
    • Chained Together, with friends
  • Visit a psychic
  • Go to Lisdoonvarna, Ireland for matchmaking festival [note: maybe someday…]
  • Go to 10 social gatherings to meet new people [count: <5??? loser]
  • Open Water diving cert […someday I’ll see a shark]

2024’s ins and outs

ins

  • “if it’s not a hard yes, it’s a no”
  • biting the bullet and doing it
  • the fancy version of manifestation, the WOOP method
  • a master’s degree
  • jazz
  • divine babygirl energy
  • pilates & dance
  • (by the grace of god) a regulated sleep cycle
  • accountability buddies / operant conditioning
  • marie kondo-esque purge cycles

outs

  • sarcastic people
  • theses
  • existential dread (Nietzsche exempted)
  • assault
  • revenge bedtime procrastination (e.g. this post)
  • social clocks
  • cowardice